"Sorry, you are not his listed mother"...

So Kyler is 2 years old, his adoption has been finalized for a year now. But we still have a birth certificate that has his name given by his birth parents and no social security card. Let me clarify something real quick, Dave and I have never needed a piece of paper that declares we are his parents, to know that we are. We didn't even do a big celebration when his adoption was finalized because he was already ours. We were just happy that the state finally recognized it.



So what is the purpose of this post you ask. Well, this week, after several attempts with vital records, we found out paperwork was misplaced and so there is no paperwork for Kyler to receive a new birth certificate with his current name and us listed as the parents. Which is also the way we would obtain a new social security card for him. So while we are trying to get new paperwork to vital records for a new birth certificate (waiting time is 6 months) I thought I would beg and plead at the social security office to see if they could work with me. I brought my entire file with every original signature and anything and everything they could possible ask me for. The clerk was extremely helpful, but she could only do so much without his new birth certificate listing us as the parents. I was disappointed but I understood. However, I finally sat in the office and just cried when she said, " I am sorry but you are not his listed mother and she is the only one who has authorization." Usually, things like this don't upset me, I know she wasn't saying it to be hurtful. But today, this cut and it cut deep. After, two years of being the only mom his has ever known, our system still doesn't acknowledge me. I have a problem with that!!



When I left, I felt defeated. But I had to remember that just earlier that day my friend Debbie prayed for this very scenario and I have to remember that God controls all of this. Not me, not our system! I then had another friend Brittany who prayed with me as I was driving home. I have to thank these two women because they are both in the midst of chaos and yet the took the time to intercede on my behalf. It awesome to have friends like that.



So today is a new day! I have to choose whom I will serve. And I know that we serve a mighty God who is not defeated but knows every reason for each obstacle we face. I am thankful that these are not my problems to fix, but it is just up to me to trust that our God is in control!